To Play or not to play

Rescue#1

Member
Didn’t want to hijack USNA2022cb “Ingury” thread.

My DS is CPR. Wrestling ended last week, no injurys. Rugby practice started today.
I don’t think DS should play rugby. We discussed it and he felt very strongly the he “couldn’t let his guys down”. How can you respond to that? Isn’t that what the USNA is looking for?
How are all of you parents out there dealing with spring sports?
 

helmsdown

Member
I held my breath through the BB and softball seasons praying every time she went to the floor or there was a collision at the plate. (catcher)

You can't wrap them in bubble wrap but if they get hurt and are not 100% on I-day they don't go. I did take the skateboard away and outlawed running at night.

If you are concerned I'd definitely put the deposit in on plan B.
 

Wishful

"Land of the free, because of the brave..."
5-Year Member
Also held breath thru BBall season- cancelled out of state tournament trip in late May. Used airline tix for mother/daughter trip to Fla.
 

Jeepman

Member
Didn’t want to hijack USNA2022cb “Ingury” thread.

My DS is CPR. Wrestling ended last week, no injurys. Rugby practice started today.
I don’t think DS should play rugby. We discussed it and he felt very strongly the he “couldn’t let his guys down”. How can you respond to that? Isn’t that what the USNA is looking for?
How are all of you parents out there dealing with spring sports?
Let him play.
 

justdoit19

Member
Such a difficult thing. We ended wrestling season uninjured and I was never so relieved! We talked with DS about being mindful of his body (vs working through the pain kind of attitude...) should anything come up. Being more cautious than perhaps would be otherwise. Same with track season just now beginning. I cannot imagine missing out on your senior season as a “precaution!”

We are people of faith. That helps. I believe he is meant for this journey so having that faith is helpful for my mindset. But yes, all unnecessary risks are a big NO! A tradition in our family is a skydive for their 18th birthday. That’s one we are going to have to ponder a bit ....
 

Jeepman

Member
Such a difficult thing. We ended wrestling season uninjured and I was never so relieved! We talked with DS about being mindful of his body (vs working through the pain kind of attitude...) should anything come up. Being more cautious than perhaps would be otherwise. Same with track season just now beginning. I cannot imagine missing out on your senior season as a “precaution!”

We are people of faith. That helps. I believe he is meant for this journey so having that faith is helpful for my mindset. But yes, all unnecessary risks are a big NO! A tradition in our family is a skydive for their 18th birthday. That’s one we are going to have to ponder a bit ....
Well, I'm thinking skydiving would be safe since it is an all or nothing type deal, lol!
 

THParent

Member
My DS will be at I-Day, and he's not doing anything different.
At this point, he's pretty self-sufficient (which is what I was working for all these years) so I'm not planning on telling him what to do anymore.
 
We had an injury during track and after DoDMERB. Had to go to ortho to get letter for Navy. Worked out OK, but I DQ’d hurdles during the spring season. Didn’t seem smart to tempt fate. He’s a Youngster now. Once they’re in, there’s more latitude on injury status.
 

justdoit19

Member
We had an injury during track and after DoDMERB. Had to go to ortho to get letter for Navy. Worked out OK, but I DQ’d hurdles during the spring season. Didn’t seem smart to tempt fate. He’s a Youngster now. Once they’re in, there’s more latitude on injury status.
Mine is a hurdler too...did/does yours do track at USNA?
 

usna1985

10-Year Member
Agree he should play. The concept of "bubble wrap," IMHO, means don't do something stupid and unnecessary. Stuff like taking up rollerblading for the first time or riding ATVs if you've never done it. Continuing to participate in a sport -- even one where injury could well occur -- is part of normal life.

Based anecdotally on folks who've posted on this site over the years, the overwhelming majority of pre-I-Day injuries come from normal activities (missing a step) or from doing something "stupid" (see above). I'm sure there are the occasional routine sports-related injuries, but they appear to be the rare exception, not the norm.
 

Old Navy BGO

5-Year Member
He's CPR -- there is no sense trying to protect against something that may or may not happen. Where do you draw the line on bubble wrapping your kids ? He could have gotten hurt in any of the 3 Rugby seasons befo0re this. I know its easy to look back if something were to happen and think it could have been prevented, but DS has to continue to live his life as he always has. Think about the position DS is in ..telling his friends that he can't play Rugby with them, because he might get into USNA. (BTW, my answer is the same if he already has an Appointment).

Also, perhaps someone with more direct experience can respond, but I have always heard that if someone gets hurt before I-day , USNA will look favorably upon deferring admission to a following year if the candidate is medically qualified. I don't think its a guarantee, but Admissions does have a heart (believe it or not) , and recognizes these things happen, and if a person is well qualified one year, he/she should be the following year.
 

Rescue#1

Member
DS emphatically stated that not playing rugby was not an option. I respect that decision. So I will be on the sidelines rooting. Just wondering how other parents were dealing with the issue.
 

Humey

Member
I can understand continuing with sports like Baseball and Basketball. But Football and Rugby, I wouldnt want my son to stop playing at this point. Why ruin something big at this point. My son is commissioning from Rotc (doesnt play a sports in college) this May and I am still freaked he could get sick, hurt or do something stupid between now and May. Doesnt mean I could stop him if I wanted, but they have to look at the bigger picture.
 

USMA 1994

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Our family had always looked at this a little different. What will help ensure my DD has the best opportunity at being successful in life. She loved soccer and played hard. When she started high school, the rule was that the first concussion would end her high school soccer career. While I understand the value of sports, her "brain" was much more valuable than her soccer team. Sometimes you cannot see the forrest for the trees. Risking an appointment to "be with your team" as a kid in high school may not be the best choice.

My DD did complete the Track Season in college after she received her appointment but we may have had a different take if it was a contact sport.
 

SCMids

Member
He should play. We sweated it out that last semester. My 17 Mid played soccer at a high level and was known for being a very physical defender. He played. We never considered otherwise. Kicked the winning goal in the State Championship game. Imagine missing that.

Still, he played in a state All Star game the Saturday before I-Day. I assumed the coach would even out the playing time. Nope. My kid played every minute but 3. I was squirming like you wouldn’t believe. For the first time ever, I wanted my kid’s bit on that bench. He made it just fine.

My 20 was a competitive swimmer. What could go wrong there? How about banging and scraping his head on the wall. Hadn’t turned like that since he was 7. He was fine, but . . .

Seriously, you bubble wrap them, and that’ll be when they get hurt. Your better focus is to make sure they stay out of trouble and graduate.

CPR is not an appointment. Don’t get too far out over your skis. Be patient, and best of luck.
 

Humey

Member
He should play. We sweated it out that last semester. My 17 Mid played soccer at a high level and was known for being a very physical defender. He played. We never considered otherwise. Kicked the winning goal in the State Championship game. Imagine missing that.

Still, he played in a state All Star game the Saturday before I-Day. I assumed the coach would even out the playing time. Nope. My kid played every minute but 3. I was squirming like you wouldn’t believe. For the first time ever, I wanted my kid’s bit on that bench. He made it just fine.

My 20 was a competitive swimmer. What could go wrong there? How about banging and scraping his head on the wall. Hadn’t turned like that since he was 7. He was fine, but . . .

Seriously, you bubble wrap them, and that’ll be when they get hurt. Your better focus is to make sure they stay out of trouble and graduate.

CPR is not an appointment. Don’t get too far out over your skis. Be patient, and best of luck.
It isnt the issue of bubble wrapping them. It is playing the odds. To be me is like having to go from point A to point B. The straight line has a mine field in between and there is only a 10% chance of blowing youself up. However you can circle around the mine field, its going to cost extra time to get there but there is 1% change of hurting yourself. I was going to say Zero percent but hey you can trip and get a concussion
 

Humey

Member
I can understand continuing with sports like Baseball and Basketball. But Football and Rugby, I wouldnt want my son to stop playing at this point. Why ruin something big at this point. My son is commissioning from Rotc (doesnt play a sports in college) this May and I am still freaked he could get sick, hurt or do something stupid between now and May. Doesnt mean I could stop him if I wanted, but they have to look at the bigger picture.
I meant to say I would want my son to stop playing at this point
 
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