Freda'smom, what corrective action have you taken? You claim your knowledge of this hazing comes from the culprits. You claim to be a parent. Yet the only concern I see is that you make your point and convince this audience. You might have a valid point. You have yet to garner any credibility.
ecause I am a grad and a parent. And in both capacities I promise, I would be spending more time talking to people at the Academy than stroking my ego here if I had any proof of misconduct. I simply asked what action they have taken? I did not call names. I did not accuse of being a liar. I simply stated why I do not find them credible. Perhaps this can help them support their argument in a productive way rather than going in circles as it has. If you don't like my post, I do not care.
I am going to address these comments from the point of view of a fellow civilian non-military parent:
Point 1: Why aren't you as a parent taking "corrective actions" and "spending more time talk to people at the Academy"?
As a parent, it has been made patently obvious to me that my opinion, thoughts, input and ideas are not welcome at the Academy (putting that grammar thread to use with capitalization of Academy
). The only thing that matters is monetary donations to the AOG. Other than a monetary donation, I have no value. Thus, what would be the point of my speaking up when no one at the Academy cares or wants to listen to a parent? If I ever doubted the importance of my point of view, I would only have to ask here and be quickly "put in my place." Also, it is all said and done. There is no going back after the i's are dotted and the t's are crossed on the form-34.
Point 2: "You have yet to garner any credibility"
It has been made evidently clear that my view and knowledge as a civilian is seen as unreliable and highly suspect. Anything I share is dismissed as opinion or unenlightened. If I disagree, it is because I just don't appreciate the military and how hard it has to be. As a civilian, I can't possibly have any valid points as I haven't served my time. There is no way I can garner any credibility. I suspect if I had managed to catch an entire incident on go-pro with perfect visuals and sounds, it would be suspect and dismissed as either edited or out of context.
Point 3: "I would be spending more time talking to people at the Academy than stroking my ego here if I had any proof of misconduct." and
I did not see someone on here stroking their ego. I saw someone trying to come to terms with what happened to her son. She was reaching out to see if there was anyone who understood and to share his experiences. And yes, I do empathize. I understand. And I know of basics and doolies (note the plural) who have been mistreated by upper level cadets. But then I am a parent, thus anything I say is suspect and just "third party" gossip.
Point 4: Implied "No one else comes on here talking of this type of thing."
People (parents, friends, family members) don't share specifics for various reasons
1) They understand what they are told is not for public consumption. It is private and they acknowledge the right of the cadet to speak out for themselves.
2) They understand they will be dismissed and attacked and not taken seriously. Why bother adding such negativity when already dealing with a painful situation?
3) They know what they think and feel doesn't matter.
4) They are concerned about retribution against their cadet or their friend's cadet etc. etc. etc. Parents frequently get warned off regarding sharing any opinion, thought or idea that isn't all "hurah."
Point 5: "Yet the only concern I see is that you make your point and convince this audience."
I did not see someone who was only concerned with making her point and convincing this audience. I saw someone sharing an experience. Perhaps letting others know they are not alone while searching for answer as to why and how. I don't need convincing that bullying has gone and can go on at the academy. I knew that long before her post. I always acknowledged it can happen. I just believe it is not common.
I hope that clears up some of the questions you asked from a mother, Fredamom, who is hurting because of the pain, disappointment and experience her son went through.
(NOTE: Lost track of who shared what on all this. My apologies to all the name and who said what mix up. Thanks for pointing that out Alext. Regardless, my points still stand, and I empathize with the mom who shared the experience of her son and of Fredasmom who shared what she heard. In this forum, sharing something that is negative always garners "interesting and pointed" feedback. Thick skin and the willingness to stand up regardless of "popular opinion" is required.)