did a great job of discussing the big picture from a total life earnings standpoint, so I will not add any further to that.
However, I'll provide the counterpoint below as an AF officer who was prior-enlisted.
…my Commander feels my leadership skills will not be where they need to commission next year as an LT. ...I duel enrolled in High School thats why I started as an AS250.
So it sounds like you are 19 years old at most. I would agree with your commander-- 19/20 is incredibly young to be a commissioned officer (outside of wartime anyway). The few sub-21 year old 2nd Lt's I've met in my career have all been phenomenal for their age, but still lagged their peers of the same rank. A lot of maturity and development happens between 18 and 22/23. I do not think your commander's opinion is an indictment on you
, rather it is acknowledging that he thinks you need a few more years to develop more before commissioning-- you know, like almost everyone else has
In the long run, he is probably saving your butt from a rough start to your career as an immature (in the military sense-- that is not an insult) and unprepared lieutenant.
I haven’t done anything illegal. I am a non scholarship cadet.... I owe the government no money.
Kid, you are golden, then. Which brings me to my next point.
Can I still enlist because the military is all I want to do and I went to college because of ROTC.
Yes. Unless your commandant axes you on the way out or botches your discharge order, you will be okay to enlist, and that is probably the absolute best thing you can do right now
. Sit down, and talk to him. Make him aware that to commission in the future, you will need a waiver, and therefore are asking that he take care to give you a discharge recommendation based more on your current age/station in life, and less on whether you are a crappy leader right now at this point in time as an 18/19 year old.
Go enlist, pick an AFSC that excites you. Get a year or two under your belt, and after you get your 5-level, start working on finishing your degree. While on Active Duty, you will receive 100% of your tuition free, and as an E-4 and below you will have plenty of time on your hands.
Finish your degree, sew on Staff Sergeant around the 4-5 year mark, and start putting in packages to go to OTS.
If you cannot/do not want to go into OTS, you can also look at flying helicopters for the Army as a Warrant Officer-- very cool career path that many prior-enlisted Airman go down.
You will come out of this experience in much stronger shape than you are leaving it now.
As for ANG/Reserves, if you ever wish to serve full-time, stay away from ANG and Reserves for now. It is very difficult to go from ANG/Reserves to Active Duty. The reverse path is incredibly easy.