I just wanted to say "thanks" to some of the folks here in this thread for completely disrespecting my DD and all the other daughters and females on this board who are working hard to achieve their dream of commissioning and serving. It feels great, let me tell ya. My daughter received a 4 year NROTC scholarship. She had a 4.5 GPA (12 APs - including Calc 1&2), 32 ACT, maxed out her PT, captained her competition Cyber Patriot anti-hacking team to two platinum level national finishes, 1st VP of her class, and achieved the highest rank in her NSCC unit. But, yeah, she probably just got it because she is a female. The *fact* is that females who choose a life in service as a commissioned officer and who apply to the academies and national ROTC scholarships do so with their eyes wide open and a significant number have been aiming for this career for many years - a high percentage are not making this decision "last minute." Because fewer females, in general, even seek this type of career, those that do are *especially committed* to it and therefore their competitive pool by gender is actually quite high.
Versus some of the males (and some my DD encountered along the way) who think - "hey I played football in high school, hunt, and play World of Warcraft better than all my friends - so I should definitely get an ROTC scholarship." Give me a break. The attitude of *some* on this thread undermines your son's future in whichever branch he chooses, teaches him to disrespect his female cadre/shipmates, gives him permission to make excuses for his own shortcomings rather than working to correct them, and generally promotes a lack of esprit d'corps - all things that are the antithesis of the values held by the Army, Navy, and the Air Force. So, if they aren't up to upholding those values, perhaps they should seek a different career.
I do want to give a special shoutout though to all the ROTC unit staff (of all branches) on this board who have defended against this attitude here - and at all the schools my DD visited - you all are the utmost professionals - never *once* did you treat my DD as if she were something on a gender "checkbox". You approached her as someone you wanted in your unit - because you thought the unit would be better for it - not because you "needed more females." You all could teach some here a thing or two.
Look, I get the frustration and the waiting and the heartwrenching desire to see your kid get everything that you know they deserve (we were there, trust me) - and this time period is the heart of the worst-- the "sitting and waiting" time period -- but you don't have to tear down anyone else down to build your own kid up. That's not why they want to serve and that's not what the military wants. All I see on this board, regardless of gender, race or whatever, are a lot of incredible kids that give me faith in my country as well as a lot of dedicated parents who unlike so many out there, have raised these great kids and just want the best for them. So let's default to respect and teach our children this as well.
(yes, I suppose my tone in this post could get me blacklisted, but if this is the way I am going out on this board, so be it.)