Hi all - first-time poster/newbie here. My DS is a 4/C at one of the SAs. From what I gather from our conversations he is doing well keeping up with academics, military training, etc (though he does indicate the schedule/workload is unforgiving). He's far away from home and definitely homesick and he's made comments about leaving and coming back home to attend the local state school - it doesn't help that his local friends at home are telling him how awesome it is back home and how he's missing out on all the fun and good times back here at the local college.
Of course as a parent I shudder at the thought of him making such a decision while so new to this new way of life. My thought is for him to give it the full two years and then if he truly believes this may not be for him then at least at that point he will have given it a real go and didn't bail out three just months into it. He's very sensitive and gets easily upset at much of what I say so I am often in "listen mode." I'm feeling quite ineffective and our talks aren't real great since he "snaps" at most of my dialog....so I don't say much, making me feel pretty useless and unsupportive.
So I'm seeking advice on how I can support him and interact with him to try and make him see that (in my opinion) it's too soon to make the decision to leave, because you can't go back once you pull that trigger. The grass isn't always greener - and I suspect he would eventually have significant regret.
I'm told by other parents that the first year is very up/down so maybe what he is expressing is "normal" but it's very concerning.
Any advice appreciated - thanks!
Of course as a parent I shudder at the thought of him making such a decision while so new to this new way of life. My thought is for him to give it the full two years and then if he truly believes this may not be for him then at least at that point he will have given it a real go and didn't bail out three just months into it. He's very sensitive and gets easily upset at much of what I say so I am often in "listen mode." I'm feeling quite ineffective and our talks aren't real great since he "snaps" at most of my dialog....so I don't say much, making me feel pretty useless and unsupportive.
So I'm seeking advice on how I can support him and interact with him to try and make him see that (in my opinion) it's too soon to make the decision to leave, because you can't go back once you pull that trigger. The grass isn't always greener - and I suspect he would eventually have significant regret.
I'm told by other parents that the first year is very up/down so maybe what he is expressing is "normal" but it's very concerning.
Any advice appreciated - thanks!